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Paula Wilcox's avatar

This totally sums up every conflicting and revealing thing about aging. I'm so glad to hear all the voices that feel the same way and be able to look at it more expectantly and less fearfully. Funny how aging actually brings to light the things that really matter and always have along the way. I definitely appreciate things, moments and people more than I ever did before. And it's refreshing to not really care about the things that don't really matter anyway. I guess there's a lot of wisdom that does come with age. Your 60s will be fabulous! Just like you are!

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Christina Decker's avatar

Well said! You’re so right and I know you are good about being mindful and appreciating. 🩵

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Karolyn's avatar

When I think about the aging process of the people I have loved and lost, there are two things that bring me hope: (1) Over time, their interests were refined into the things they valued most. One bright side to aging is that a lot of the noise seems to dissipate, and you are left with the chance to focus on things that truly matter to you. (2) A quote that I heard recently (something like "We are the first generation to have advance notice that we will live longer than we thought") provides a wake up call to not let time and money control us, but create control over those things for our future selves. And we can be more creative in what our older decades look like - communal living, alternative medical care, etc. Looking for all the bright spots!

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Christina Decker's avatar

All such good points! Writing this post helped me get perspective on how important it is to do as you said- CREATE control over those things, and also our health to a certain extent. At least doing our best with that in terms of nutrition, fitness and wellness. Thank u for sharing your insight. So valuable to the convo! And, I’ll communal live with you!

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Jill Krigsten's avatar

I love this!! So much of the way I feel too❤️

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Christina Decker's avatar

We can help each other change the narrative and let go of that fear.... I think I need to write a follow up post to tackle everything that swirls in my mind....

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Celia Chen's avatar

Love this post. I also found myself at a dinner with 30 year olds and during a share, someone referred to older as 50 and 60. somehow I shouted 50 is not old and realized I had heckled him during his share. Oof! Knee jerk reaction because I just turned 52 but had yet to think of myself as "old" What does it even mean these days to be over 50? Let's rewrite that description.

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Christina Decker's avatar

Haha! I totally feel you. And it’s a deal- let’s do it! Definitely need to change the antiquated narrative.

I love your background in your bio and look forward to digging into more of your posts. I’m a wellness junkie and would love to know more about the brands you work with. Also- Thank you for following me- I appreciate it!

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Celia Chen's avatar

I’ve always been a bit of a rebel. There are no rules!! Keep writing. I love the fresh POVs on substack.

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Lisa Tripp's avatar

This resonates with me so much! At this stage in life good health is everything! As long as we are blessed to have it, the world is our oyster! I am thankful because I know many who are struggling everyday.

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Christina Decker's avatar

Yes! Have to work on what we can control while we can- health, mindset… that makes me feel much less fearful when I know I’m doing everything I can. That’s all we can do.

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Lisa Grannis's avatar

I’m right behind you! 😬

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Christina Decker's avatar

Comin’ in hot!

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